Fibromyalgia and chronic pain are a big deal. Most people that aren't dealing with these symptoms don't have any clue how much of a life-altering condition this arrangement of symptoms can be, but what people don't often talk about is the spiritual, energetic, emotional side of what's going on and how to approach actually healing from fibromyalgia and chronic pain using a more of a spiritual interface.
So in this blog we're going to approach fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue from the spiritual side and talk about the spiritual symptoms that are going on with these kinds of conditions.
I've been doing natural health for 10 plus years. I'm a trained acupuncturist and Oriental Medicine Practitioner and over my 10 plus years of clinical practice with people, I've seen some themes come up with folks with fibromyalgia and chronic pain.
Now, I didn't really want to do this video because fibromyalgia and chronic pain is a heated topic. There's a lot of emotion here. If you are suffering from these things, you know that there's a lot of charged emotions and difficulty about it. I know that this video is actually gonna make some people angry. You might feel offended, you might feel like I don't get you. You might feel like I don't understand or I'm minimizing your symptoms. That's possible.
So I hope that this video will be helpful for you and please know that my intention is to really be of service and it's this area of spiritual and emotional symptoms of fibromyalgia that I think a lot of people miss.
We're going to talk about four main keys to really making a difference in your symptoms with a more somatic body-based, spiritual and emotional approach.
Address the Trauma Trapped in Your Body
Point number one, the first thing that I see necessary across the board to really make a difference in your chronic pain or Fibromyalgia is to address the trauma trapped in your body.
There's trauma with a big T, which are the things that we're all familiar with—accidents, physically abuse. That's outright. But what we don't realize is that sometimes not outright abusive situations that were still difficult or emotionally challenging actually land in the body as trauma. In many ways chronic pain is the result of a long standing, trapped emotional pattern in the body. This is a large topic on how to address the somatic things.
I recommend really finding and working with a practitioner who is skilled in these. Those people could be anywhere from someone who does psychotherapeutic work, body-based psychotherapy or things like acupuncture and body-based trauma work, which is what I've traditionally done.
Finding someone that you really align with where you can start to release these patterns. What I hear people say all the time is, "Oh my God, after a session, I feel so much lighter" and that continues. There are ways to unlock these kinks in the mind-body system that not only feel help you feel lighter and more emotionally peaceful, but actually can make a difference in chronic pain.
I had a student once in one of my Subtle Body Certification groups and as we were going through the program, she just sort of jumped in. She had done the initial coursework. There wasn't really much about pain in that particular training and we'd been apart for a while. She came back to the group and she said, "You haven't talked about pain Leslie, but I've been implementing these techniques that we've been learning and my pain is 40% less without me doing anything differently".
I know that these things work. It might seem like a little bit of twist that it's not a medication, it's not another supplement, but it can actually make a physical result happen.
Heal Subtle Body Image
Number two, you really need to heal Subtle Body damage. Now what does this mean? Your Subtle Body in many ways is the technical side of your mind, body, spirit connection.
What I want you to know is that physical pain can come from physical issues, but as we know with fibromyalgia and chronic pain, there's not so many things that doctors can find physically wrong to explain the amount of pain that someone feels.
So often pain is coming from some kind of damage in the way that your Subtle Body or mind-body-spirit system is wired so it has rules and functioning just like any other type of physical body or otherwise. Doing various things like somatic work and working with trauma can help that system heal that will not only give you more pain relief but will also help you in your interpersonal functioning and just the way that you feel about yourself on a soul level.
Make Up with Your Body
The third key that I want you to take away is that you need to make up with your body.
What I've seen over and over again is that most of us walk around in these bodies our whole life acting as if it's some enemy that's trying to get us, it's some enemy that's giving me pain. When the truth is your Body is really the best friend that's been with you your whole life.
It's just that your Body has been calling you, sending you messages, and you are always swiping those calls to voicemail. So what I challenge you to do in this moment is to make up with your Body, to say, "those things are in the past and I choose to see you Body as a friend, even if we're having a hard time".
Think about a good friend that you've had. Maybe you had a fight at some point. Maybe there was a period of time where you weren't getting along, but eventually you come back and recognize that you really are in this together and that you have a relationship that can really be co-supportive.
Here's two concrete ways to make up with your Body.
Number one is to understand and to make it your healing mantra—"My Body has my best interest at heart. My body has my best interest at heart."
What that means practically is that whatever comes up from your Body, whether it's a painful sensation, whether it's something that you don't feel is working, I want you to turn towards that sensation and say, "Thank you Body. What do you need me to know?"
Now this is quite different than what we normally do. My arm starts hurting, I go, "Oh, stop hurting. I don't want to think about you". So this is really a mind shift that I'm asking you to make. Knowing that your Body is doing everything for your benefit. Sometimes it's just a little misguided.
Whenever something comes up from the body, I want you to, whether you believe it or not, turn towards that part of the body and say out loud, "wrist or pain, thank you. What do you need?"
Then just breathe for a few minutes and listen. If nothing comes, that's okay. But you're starting to rewire your brain, your neurophysiology to react differently to pain and to bring your Body into more of a friendship relationship.
The other thing under this point number 3 that I want you to know is that the Body does not hold a grudge.
I've heard so many clients say, "Oh, I really beat up on my body"
"I ran track and field"
"I was a football player and I beat up on my body, so now my body's getting back at me".
I have to tell you that this is not true and this is not how healing works. Even if your Body's a little pissed off at the moment, maybe just for not listening, everything can and will be forgiven. Bodies do not hold a grudge.
I ask you to take this as your working hypothesis and start to change your mind about how you and your Body are having a relationship.
Break Up with Fibro
Key number four, and this is a big one and the one that is likely to make people the most angry. The number four key to healing some of the spiritual background of chronic pain is what I call "break up with fibro".
Now you'll notice that a lot of folks, and you may be in this category that have fibromyalgia because it's been so difficult, because you've been in chronic pain, because people don't understand what you're going through, that it makes sense that you would find support groups and other people who get it and have bumper stickers that say, "I speak brain fog, I have fibro".
It's natural that all of us want to belong but in order to really heal from chronic pain, we need to break up with fibro.
What that means is stop identifying with yourself as someone that has fibromyalgia. Stop giving yourself the label of being a chronic pain person. Stop speaking about fibro as if it's a separate person.
You might even hear yourself say on a regular basis, "Oh, I can't do this because of the fibro."
"Oh, I wanted to go to that party, but I can't because of the fibro."
What you don't realize is that you have an intimate, loving, interactive relationship with fibro and that can become a barrier to your own internal healing.
One of the things that I would encourage you to do instead as you let go of these labels is doesn't mean that you have to be in denial of what you're feeling or denial of the pain or denial of the difficulty. We want to save space for that and to let it be there.
What I would ask you to switch to is instead of labeling it fibro and identifying it that way, start to become an objective describer. Whatever is happening, describe it objectively, without a label.
If you're having a bad day, instead of saying, "Oh, it's the fibro", be very descriptive.
"I really don't feel like going to the meeting right now because I'm having a headache and it feels difficult to think and I feel some emotional sadness."
"I am not able to work in the way that I want to because I have frequent pain in my wrists and it's hard for me to sleep sometimes at night."
I know that this is a challenge and it may seem disconnected, but when we start to really get objective, it trains the mind in a way that opens more doors to healing.
It's my hope and prayer that your challenges and your illnesses will be a blessing and a gift on your life because your personal and spiritual growth is important!