"Leslie, I'm in a strange place when it comes to work. It feels like I'm being tested to trust the universe and understand that I can't receive a new opportunity with open arms until I let go of what I'm holding on to. Any advice on how to feel trusting, grounding, and in the midst of all this change?"
The first thing I would say as a notebook mantra of sorts is that sometimes we’re in transitional periods. It’s good just to recognize that. That this may or may not be in time in life that is meant or destined to be a little bit halfway in an outcome thing.
It’s not that you should stay there or celebrate it, but it is good to just notice that sometimes we go through times like that and they feel destabilizing and that’s actually normal.
The question that we’re really answering is what happens when I’m ready to leave this job opportunity and I kind of have something else, but it hasn’t panned out yet?
1. Laser beam clarity of what you want to experience
The first thing that I would say is to have laser beam clarity of what you want to experience– a detailed description in writing that you could hand to a random passerby and they would know exactly what it was and where to find it and how it would feel to actually be in that situation.
This in itself is a huge magnifier and clarifier for all levels of the situation. Functionally, what you’re doing in the moment and also just to the universe in general.
- written down
- a random person on the street could really get the details of it
2. Develop an inner relationship
Develop an inner relationship and a feeling sense with what you just described and clarified.
What that means is you do the outer clarification practice and then you spend some inner world time clarifying in an almost will-type of laser beam request of what you want to feel like.
In a statement of will, “Even though it’s scary and new, even though I don’t know what it’s like, I want to know what it’s like to have to work in a place where I feel X, Y, Z and this is true. Please show me in a way that I can understand.”
Developing your inner relationship has a couple of parts:
- Clear asking: “This is what I want. Please help me in a way I can understand.”
- Feeling the Body sense: Asking the body, triggering it with a question out loud, finding what would it be like if you actually had that already. Developing the feeling sense of openness and trust will really help in this place where you want to go.
“Body is this happening? Is this happening in this way that I know?”
Asking your Body (a Subtle Body skill), but prefacing that sometimes with, “Body, if I had no fear.” “Body, if I weren’t worried about money.” “Body, if I weren’t caring about what I thought…” And then ask the question so that you’re catching those mind stories in a way, and getting clear answers from your Body.
4. Are you doing your 50% with the Universe?
“Am I doing my 50% collaboration with the universe?”
It could mean a lot of things.
- “Am I taking action in the outer world?”
- “Am I telling people out loud that I’m looking for a new ______ position?”
- “Am I telling people out loud that I’m available?”
- “Am I looking in job postings to see if there’s something that is wanting to come to me?”
- “Am I taking time to tune in with my body to ask me what action steps it wants to do?”
I think if you combine all of these together, you’re doing the best that you can on the outer world and the inner world level, and seeing what can happen.
The other thing I would add in that outer world is also making it known to the people at the job, particularly, is there anything that you haven’t said? Is there anybody else you need to talk to? What are their intentions? That kind of a thing.
Environments are difficult. Groups of humans working together are also quite fraught with difficulty. Sometimes you can feel into what’s possible and practice being in relationship with that in ways that might bring surprising things as you develop and deepen relationships.
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