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Anger Management

11/15/2020

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What do I do at times when I feel angey, times when I feel irritated, times when I feel unsettled?

What can we use to really guide us?

I'm going to give you three questions and a bonus question of things that you can think about.

1. Who am I really?

The first question is "who am I really?" This is a deeper question and it's a big question. Who am I really?

What this is really asking is to ask you to touch back on this deeper belief of your working hypothesis, of what's true in the universe in the deep, unchanging way.

It is not a question about your surface, outer level type of titles—I'm a mom, I'm a woman, I'm a person, I'm a sister, I'm an accountant, I'm a healer. Whatever those things are, that's not the kind of answer that we're looking for in this question. In a deep abiding sense and the true nature of reality as you currently see it in your working hypothesis, who am I really?


It's okay if you don't have an answer to this question, but do know that it's an important one on the personal spiritual path. We can argue in the realm of spirituality that it's maybe hard to absolutely know these things. This is why I call it a working hypothesis. I believe this to be true, I'm currently testing it out but this is what I'm holding to in this moment.

2. What do I value?

What do I value? This is an exercise that we'll sometimes do in the Subtle Body Certification intensives of what are my values? If you already know, hopefully you've defined your values for yourself because this is something that really guides us in life.

It can also cause us trouble when we're not aware of what our values are. Because when people tend to act in a way that seems to violate our values, that's when we're really going to get triggered. If you don't even know what your values are, you're not going to understand what's happening in that moment and you may be active or reactive in that way. S

Sometimes a good gateway into this is you can think about your pet peeves or things that really trigger you and it's usually that sort of like a back door side door into what you value. Because normally the things that get on our nerves are the things that actually violate our values.


3. What am I feeling?

What What am I feeling? This is a right-now/in-the-moment feeling. It could be right on the surface and it might be something that you have to dive down into a little bit deeper, especially when you are feeling riled up, irritated, angry, frustrated, explosive. This is a really important key thing to answer.

There can be lots of mental reasons of what's going wrong and whether people should be doing but the important question to be asking one of several is, "what am I feeling"? This will start to lead us in a down and inward way so we can see what is really the root of what's happening.


The truth is it's usually not about what it's about. What that means is what appears to be the problem on the surface is usually not the heart of the problem underneath. It's not the source of the problem underneath. We can be very certain in our mind saying, "the problem is that this person did this because if they wouldn't have done this, I wouldn't have felt this way".

Starting to turn towards to what we're feeling, especially connected with our values as well. We can start to turn inwards and see where is the snag in our mind body system. Is there some Subtle Body block that created some Velcro in me that really gives this situation a charge.

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We're not saying someone will do something dumb and obviously offensive or hurtful and you're going to feel great about it. That's not really what we're talking about. What we're saying is when you notice that there's an ongoing irritation or a huge burst of emotion or irritation or anger that's lasting with you, that's when we really need to dive underneath to start to dissect and see, "wait a minute, what am I feeling underneath?"

It might just be anger on the surface but as you go deeper, there might be something else. There might be fear, there might be sadness. My working hypothesis is that usually anger is not a primary emotion. It's usually covering over feeling scared, feeling worried, feeling insecure. 


Here are three questions and you could even write them on a note card. When you feel blinded by a situation or a strong emotion, you could just open up the cupboard or the bathroom mirror where you have these written and ask and reflect on these questions. 

  1. Who am I really?
  2. What do I value?
  3. ​What am I feeling?

Now I'll give you a fourth one that you can add in sometimes. If you're really feeling worked up, you may or may not have the capacity to ask this in the moment and that's okay. The fourth optional question is "where is the inner knowing directing me?" or "where am I being directed?"

To answer this question, we have to be able to come to that more aligned place where we can be more quiet and be more inward to really listen and hear what's actually there. Sometimes that's just not possible when we're in the thick of things. That's why it's number four optional. 

You are a soul with a body and you deserve great things!


RELEASE THE TRAPPED TRAUMA FROM YOUR BODY
​(WITHOUT YEARS OF THERAPY)
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Disclaimer: This program is not intended to be a substitute for professional mental health or counseling services. No practitioner-patient relationship is established and the training content is for educational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA and nothing here is intended to diagnose, cure or treat any disorders.
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Meditation for Healing Trauma?

11/15/2020

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Does meditation help us with trauma and healing? The short answer is kind of, but not often. The reason that I say that is what most people call meditation and your ability to go into more meditative states is dependent on the wiring of your Subtle Body.

Meditation is not purely a mind thing because we're not thinking. That's what I think people don't even stop to think about. Meditation calms the mind, but it calms the mind because it's touching in with the values or the energy channels. It's focusing your layers of your Subtle Body in order to be more harmonized.

The reason that we feel refreshed is that we are more integrated when we're trying to settle the mind or focus the mind so that it's not interfering with the rest of the Subtle Body. It's not often that meditation helps your trauma. It's true that spiritual practice in general, ultimately everything will be brought to the surface and unified and healed in your own process towards oneness with the one, but it is a long process. It might take you a couple of lifetimes.

What I've seen, and I've been a part of different spiritual communities and traditions and qi gong and yoga, and I've really had been blessed to be in the company of spiritual masters of different traditions, and also had mentors who were therapists and worked in that way. I've seen the different sides that people can approach this from.

What tends to be more true is that trauma work ends up supporting and helping to go deeper in your meditation. Because if you have a block in your Subtle Body, it's going to be very difficult to go into any deeper states of meditation without a super deep dive.

The exception to that is doing pretty intensive spiritual practices that most people are not really set up to do. Like doing a deep dive, 10 day silent retreat, working with a qualified teacher one-on-one, meditating for long periods at a time over a series of days. For most modern people that aren't in a monastic tradition, that's really harder to do.

In my experience using Subtle Body techniques is the way to start to heal your Subtle Body. So then low to moderate meditative types will be able to function better and lead you into that deeper way more organically.

RELEASE THE TRAPPED TRAUMA FROM YOUR BODY
​(WITHOUT YEARS OF THERAPY)
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Disclaimer: This program is not intended to be a substitute for professional mental health or counseling services. No practitioner-patient relationship is established and the training content is for educational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA and nothing here is intended to diagnose, cure or treat any disorders.
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Release Trapped Emotions

11/15/2020

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It's a really big topic. I can't teach you 12 weeks in this two minutes, but I'll give you the basic overview. 

Releasing Emotions

It's two questions—releasing emotions, and then releasing stuff that's not ours. To release trapped emotions, you have to have a Subtle Body-appropriate process because there's always an emotion and then there's the source of the emotions themselves in a Subtle Body technical way are like the wind that comes through the trees. They're something that is naturally generated by the movement of air pressure and other things. That's the root.

We want to be careful to not believe that emotions are the source of things. Emotions are just the wind that is generated by something else by a deeper cause. What we're really looking to release is not the emotions, but actually the cause of the emotions, which is the kink in the Subtle Body.


In Sanskrit, we talk about what's in your Citta , which is sort of like your karmic bag of all the impressions that you have. Sometimes those will get stirred up and that creates these whirlpools of emotions. We see that it's not really the emotion, it's actually the source within the person. Two people can experience the same event and have different emotions come from it. So if two people go through the same experience and they can have different emotions that come from it, that means that there must be something different at the source. Otherwise the emotions would be the same.

To release emotions, we have to use a Subtle Body process to move past the emotions. We let the emotions and the wind guide us to say, "Whoa, there must be a fan around here, something blowing up all this wind". 
We go through a process, which we train people in what we call the Basic Procedure and the basis is NTB.

NTB

  • N we Notice it, "Oh, it seems like there's a little wind here. I wonder where the sensation is in my body.

  • T we Turn towards it. This seems simple, but it's huge. Most of us are used to pushing away and avoiding that sensation whenever we feel that emotion or that wind come up. We turn the other way and try to get rid of it as quickly as possible. Although that's a natural reaction, it actually causes the emotion to stay stuck.

  • B Bring it closer. This is where we really have to use Subtle Body energy-appropriate techniques like the ones that you will learn through the 7 Days To A More Grounded You Audio Course.


​Remember, you are a soul with a body and your path reflects that. Sending you lots of love!

RELEASE THE TRAPPED TRAUMA FROM YOUR BODY
​(WITHOUT YEARS OF THERAPY)
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Disclaimer: This program is not intended to be a substitute for professional mental health or counseling services. No practitioner-patient relationship is established and the training content is for educational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA and nothing here is intended to diagnose, cure or treat any disorders.
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Get Through Tough Times

8/6/2020

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How do I deal with the difficulties that happen in life?

This starts to get us down to this deeper level of what our working spiritual hypothesis is in the world, because one of the things that many spiritual traditions understand (depending on your viewpoint) is that suffering is a part of life. The Eastern school of thought is that we have to recognize that no matter what, whether you are spiritually enlightened or an average Joe, nobody gets out of here without difficulty.

One of the important lessons that I'm often coaching people on is a stepping stone that we have to start to separate out the difference between what is difficulty in life and what is suffering.

People will say, "well, what about this issue with my friends?" or "what about this issue with my family? I really feel stuck."

You'll notice that when you bring up an issue, it's like this big jumble of a lot of different feelings and emotions and sensations in your body and reasons why it should be somewhere, should be another way. This is always a recipe for disaster.

What we learned to do is a two-step process. 

What is the Objective Part?

We start to use our mind a little bit and we can start to say, "okay, of all this jumble, what is the objective difficult part?"

I want you to make two columns on a piece of paper. One column is the objective difficulty.

"It's actually very difficult that right now I'm low on toilet paper."

"I'm stuck at home and I'm homeschooling my kids."

Whatever the reality is for you, the things that go on this list should be objective.


What is the Suffering Part?

What you start to put over on the other category is that the suffering things are the meaning that I put onto those things—the fear and the worries, stories that start to creep in that aren't necessarily an objective difficulty. It's a story that I'm making about the objective difficulty. 

It is more of the fear stories.

"I'm worried about that we're going to end up losing everything."

"I'm worried about that my parents are going to catch this virus and be in the ICU and I won't be able to get to them and then they're going to die. And then I will be a terrible daughter"

We have to start with this knowing. Then, we start to apply subtle-body-appropriate skills to trace these things down to their source because another body wisdom truth is that it's never about what it's about.

Even though on the surface it's a worry that I'm gonna end up living under a bridge and lose everything, 
underneath we trace it down to what I would call the basement, which are the main causes of things.

Even just doing this with your mind will cut down on your suffering tremendously. What you start to realize is that it is possible to go through the difficulty of life without the mind stuff and the fear and the stories that really causes the suffering.

Difficulties in life are unavoidable, but the suffering aspect is optional. This is what we're really working on in subtle body work. 
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Sending you lots of love!

release the trapped trauma from your body
​(without years of therapy)
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Disclaimer: This program is not intended to be a substitute for professional mental health or counseling services.  No practitioner-patient relationship is established and the training content is for educational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice.  These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA and nothing here is intended to diagnose, cure or treat any disorders.
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