“Everything is arising for my benefit”
This is one of the truth that I teach in my self mastery trainings and it’s very important thing for healing and personal growth.Â
This idea that everything is arising from my benefit means that no matter what is going on, even if it seems crappy and terrible on the surface, actually has some benefit to you.Â
Now, whatever I teach people this idea, I hear people say things like,Â
“What? I have terrible headaches”
“I have these gastrointestinal symptoms”
“These things are going wrong in my family or my relationship. How is it possible for this to be of my benefit?”
The truth is that everything that arises in our life, whether it’s our habits or our physical body, is helping us in some way. So it’s very important to be able to drill down into your mind body system.Â
It’s not going to be logical how having this arrangement either helps you to do something or helps you to avoid doing something.Â
I’ll give you an example. Let’s imagine that you have terrible headaches. Well maybe you’ll also really hate going to social engagements that you don’t want to go to. So perhaps there is some benefit when you terrible headaches. It actually gives you the benefit of the excuse to not have to go to these crappy social engagements that you don’t want to because you have these headaches.Â
Now, I’m not saying that you’re making up the headache so you don’t have to go or that you’re a terrible person or that your headaches aren’t really happening and if you just could get over it. I’m not saying those things. What i am saying is it’s an important part of the healing process for you to uncover and make conscious within yourself all of the benefits that you get from whatever negative thing you have going on.Â